A new survey is out that has revealed that one in four women hated the way their husband proposed. Is this really fair?
Maybe it’s because I’m a guy, but I think that a marriage proposal is something that really can’t be wrong. I mean, it’s expressing your relentless love for someone and telling them that you want to spend the rest of your life with them! How is it fair for an exclamation like that be judged like some television show or movie?
A friend of mine told me after hearing this the woman should be happy with just getting the proposal because it is the “single most romantic thing a guy can do, since it’s supposed to be forever”. I have to completely agree! As he says, the woman shouldn’t have the luxury of “grading” the proposal when the guy was probably killing himself for weeks or months and losing sleep not worrying about whether she’ll say yes, but because he’s trying to make it the best proposal in history!
The survey goes deeper saying that 26% of brides-to-be said they wanted the moment to be more romantic, original or personal. Some went as far as saying that they wanted the proposal more private or complained that it was too over the top. Well that is just confusing for us guys!
In most of the “chick flicks” that we are forced to see throughout the course of the dating stage, most include a big huge wedding proposal, that is extravagant and, what we think, is over the top. When we look over at our partner, however, she is crying and saying “that was beautiful”! But I guess when it comes down to it, that’s not what they REALLY want!
So ladies, what does a guy have to do to make you happy in proposing to spend the rest of his life with you?
Just make it personal. If you have a mutual interest include it, both love kinder eggs? Put a ring in it...something like that. I also want to be surprised! What fun would it be to know and be waiting for it? And last but certainly not least, ask my Dad, any guy who doesn't have the balls to ask permission is no good for me.
ReplyDeleteThat's great advice! I definitely agree with the last part...but I guess I'm just old fashioned like that!!
ReplyDeleteI disagree with the "asking the dad" part. I'm a full grown woman. I make my life's decisions without my dad, and he hopes he raised me well enough to make the right choices. Women aren't considered property anymore and no one's going to offer a dowery to "buy" me, so a conversation with my father no longer serves a purpose. It's also been my experience that when a girl likes a guy, and dad doesn't approve, she marries him anyway and then there's awkwardness because everyone knows and the words have been spoken out loud. So far in my marriage, Husband and Father get along just fine.
ReplyDeleteWhile I do agree with you that women are not property anymore (nor were they ever really) I still think a guy should ask out of respect. The ultimate decision should come from the two that are going to spend their lives together, but it's always good to have a conversation with the father because, even though I don't have a daughter, I'm sure that girl is always gonna be her daddy's little girl. Glad to hear that your your husband and father get along! Thanks for your input too!!
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